What Do You Do With Pain, Trauma and Failure?
By Mary Lindow
What do you do with pain, trauma and failure?
How do you deal with disappointments, betrayal, and let down?
I believe that how we deal with these things is a true test of our character. And at times… a truth teller to our own souls.
This past week,
I have watched and listened as friends have told stories of what’s happening in their lives.
I’ve seen utter anguish in the lives experiencing utter terror. Over and over, I watch as someone creates drama for someone
else because of jealousy or a need to control.
Often I listen to that same hurt, that pained someone crying, and often I watch someone act out in competitive behavior or in prideful boasting about themselves.
in the midst of horrific situations, there are those who think that bullying someone else who may have thoughts or questions… is okay.
No…. The Egotistical or the Insecure will always show their true colors when others suffer.
They become “experts” or need to direct conversations towards their need for attention and accolades.
They put down, bully, roll their eyes and condescend.
Friend…their is a more
excellent way to live, to respond, to be authentic.
In my own life I’ve observed and have been hurt by all of those things. I know what it’s like, just like you do.
It’s painful. It cuts
to the core of your being. And it’s so very easy to want to lash out with words, but it takes control to rise above.
I have realized something…. the High Road is where God travels.
The high road is where God wants us to travel.
The high road is where God wants to meet us and travel with us.
What’s the High Road look like? It’s a place that you make yourself go… wholeheartedly,
placing one foot in front of the other and walking down a path that says I will not talk badly about that situation, I will not be angry and bitter, and I will not shut down.
I will not allow the situation to take me over, because on the
High Road, it’s God who takes you over.
Friend, perhaps today you’re struggling with issues in your life. It seems like you just get past something, and the next issue arrives.
We can be assured that Jesus
Christ knows exactly how we feel.
He waited to face the cross in the Garden, and as He anguished and prayed, his friends slept on.
They did not support, did not bring comfort, and in a sense, betrayed Him in His most
Maybe today you have been betrayed by a friend. Maybe you have been hurt by the words of a family member, neighbor, or even a pastor.
Perhaps you have been cheated out of a job, or something promised
to you. Or maybe you feel like you’ve been passed over, once again.
It’s easy to let the roots of the plant of bitterness get buried deep within the soil of your heart.
But God’s plan for us
is that we let the roots of the Tree of Life grow in that place in our hearts.
It’s self-discipline. It’s relying totally on God. It’s pouring it all out and having faith. It’s really, really, really
hard. That’s why it’s the High Road.
You can do it. You can take the first step on the climb. Ask God for help. Ask Him for the strength. And walk down that path.
you… growth comes in the walk, strength to the hiker, and in the long run, The High Road. It’s where God lives.
“He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you?
To act justly,
and to love mercy,
and to walk humbly with your God,” Micah: 6:8.
In His Shadow,
Mary Lindow ©
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