Sex and the Single Person
By Greg Laurie
God's will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin.
Sex and the single person can be summed up in one word: no. Am I saying that a single person can’t have sex? Exactly. More importantly, that is what God is saying. Sex is not bad; it has been created by God. But
there is a proper place for it, and that place is not outside of the marriage relationship.
Someone might say, “Well, Greg, that is your interpretation, and I think it’s very narrow. My God is loving and wants me to express
myself. My God says it is okay for me to have sex with my boyfriend.”
Actually, I don’t dispute that. I would just say her God is not the same as the God of Bible. She has another god, and I guarantee that god won’t save
her. The God of the Bible very clearly says this about sex: “God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin” (1 Thessalonians 4:3 NLT). Hebrews 13:4 says, “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another
in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery” (NLT). And Proverbs 5:15 says, “Drink water from your own well—share your love only with your wife” (NLT).
Outside of its
proper context, sex can be extremely destructive spiritually and even physically. That’s why there is no such thing as a so-called “one-night fling.” People will say that it didn’t mean anything. It means a lot. And the reason it means
a lot is because when you enter into a sexual union with someone, you effectively become one flesh with them (see 1 Corinthians 6:15–16).
There is always a way out of temptation, and sometimes it’s as simple as the door. Flee
temptation and don’t leave a forwarding address.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (KJV)
9 Know ye not that the
unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor
extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
For it is impossible for those who were once enlightened, and have tasted of the heavenly gift, and
were made partakers of the Holy Ghost, 5 And have tasted the good word of God, and the powers of the world to come, 6 If they shall fall away, to renew them again unto repentance; seeing they crucify to themselves the Son of God afresh, and put him to an open shame.
7 For the earth which drinketh in the rain that cometh oft upon it, and bringeth forth herbs meet for
them by whom it is dressed, receiveth blessing from God: 8 But that which beareth thorns and briers is rejected, and is nigh unto cursing; whose end is to be burned.
7 My son, keep my words, and lay up my commandments with thee.
2 Keep my commandments, and live; and my law as the apple of thine eye.
3 Bind them upon thy fingers, write them
upon the table of thine heart.
4 Say unto wisdom, Thou art my sister; and call understanding thy kinswoman:
5 That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words.
6 For at the window of my house I looked through my casement,
7 And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding,
8 Passing through the street near her corner; and
he went the way to her house,
9 In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night:
10 And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart.
11 (She is
loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house:
12 Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.)
13 So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him,
14 I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows.
15 Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee.
16 I have decked my bed with coverings
of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt.
17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
18 Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves.
19 For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey:
20 He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed.
21 With her much fair speech she caused him to yield,
with the flattering of her lips she forced him.
22 He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks;
23 Till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth
to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life.
24 Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth.
25 Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths.
26 For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her.
27 Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.
King James Version (KJV)